It’s that time of year again. The time where chocolate and flower sales skyrocket, hearts of every color and size are everywhere we turn and love is in the air. Apparently one day a year is when we should express our unconditional love for someone. Couples book a reservation at the fanciest restaurant and put on their best outfits for a romantic candlelit dinner, while the single folks are either at home with pizza and a movie or going wild with their other single friends. It’s that one day that makes the whole month of February either feel like you’re on top of the world or the depths of the dumps – all because that ONE, singular day of the 14th – Valentine’s Day. Not to be your classic V-Day cynic, but to me, Valentine’s Day is a bit overrated.
For starters, no one really recognizes the actual historical significance of the day. Valentine’s Day is in honor of a St.Valentine, the Catholic Church recognizes three St.Valentine’s – all of whom were martyred – so it is vague as to who the day is actually in memoriam of. Nonetheless, these Saint’s are never really addressed, recognized or even known about, which is sad given that they are the heroic, romantic figures of the past which is the reason this whole day was created in the first place.
Don’t get me wrong, the idea that Valentine’s Day encompasses is one that is pretty awesome. I mean, the day represents love and showing appreciation to those that are near and dear to your heart. But, it makes me uneasy that this idea is summed up to one day only. Shouldn’t we be appreciating and showing the love we have for our special ones every day? And if we should be expressing that everyday, then what makes Valentine’s Day so special? If your answer is: “The day makes me feel special and loved by the one I love” then please ask yourself “Why don’t I feel like that everyday?”
And now think about all those gifts. The boxes of chocolates, the bouquets of flowers, the jewelry, the perfumes and cologne, the fancy dinner reservations, the hotel and trip reservations and whatever else one buys for their special someone. Many people spend hundreds of dollars to show their love and affection for their significant other. I thought the saying was “money doesn’t buy happiness?”
Valentine’s Day is overrated. We shouldn’t wait 365 days for February 14th to come back around for us to express our love and gratitude for someone. If you want to buy your significant other a gift and it’s a random Tuesday in September, do it. If you want to send flowers to a special someone in the middle of May, do it. If you want to binge Grey’s Anatomy with your closest friends and cry into your pizza on the 8th of a random month, do it. Because in the end the 14th of February is just another day.